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Get Comfortable being Uncomfortable

I have heard the title of this blog a thousand times. I have said it to clients, and I have had it said to me. But what exactly does it mean to get comfortable being uncomfortable? What’s with the struggle to do it?

It is funny, as I sit here thinking of something to say I realize that I am uncomfortable right now. Will I have something interesting to say? Will what I am trying to say make sense to anyone reading this?

I mean, for me, the phrase that works better is to get comfortable being uncomfortably vulnerable. Think about it, someone going to a coach or a therapist. You are being vulnerable when talking about, and opening up about, what is bothering you, what is keeping you stuck. I mean you could share your thoughts and feelings and they may have a completely different take on it. You need to be ok with that possibility. You don’t have to agree with it, but you definitely have to be ok with someone knowing your vulnerabilities other than yourself and having a different take.

It can be hard admitting and experiencing your vulnerabilities, I mean who likes to do that? Well, you don’t have to like it but at some point in your life you may need to talk to someone about them. Think about it, you are in a relationship, and you don’t like how they are treating you. Do you just stuff that shit and let it build, or do you talk to someone about it? Then, when you do talk to someone about it you are then faced with the idea that ending the relationship is the best thing to do. How do you become comfortable with that? The answer is that you don’t, but you may want to try to be uncomfortably vulnerable to suggestions outside of your comfort zone.


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